With You, Without You

With You, Without You

Year: 2013

Runtime: 90 mins

Language: Sinhalese, Sinhala

Director: Prasanna Vithanage

Drama

Set against the backdrop of post-war Sri Lanka, the film explores the unexpected connection between two individuals caught on opposing sides of a devastating civil war. As they navigate the lingering effects of the conflict, they must confront the deep divisions that threaten to keep them apart. Their journey examines whether love can bridge the chasm created by years of violence and loss, and how the shadows of the past shape their present.

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1

Lonely pawn shop owner in a tea town

Sarathsiri is a forty-five-year-old loner who runs a pawn shop on the ground floor of a two-story building and lives upstairs. He rarely shows emotion and spends his spare time watching wrestling on television. His remote town, surrounded by tea plantations, underscores his solitary existence.

Present day Ground-floor pawn shop, two-story building, remote tea plantation town
2

Selvi visits the pawn shop

Selvi, a twenty-four-year-old Tamil girl, comes to the pawn shop to pawn items, many of which are not worth much. Sarathsiri takes an unusual interest in her and, with the help of his maid Lakshmi, begins to uncover her background. This encounter sets the stage for an unlikely connection between them.

Daytime Pawn shop
3

Selvi's background revealed

Selvi's origins are revealed: she is from Kilinochchi, a Tamil minority area, moved to the upcountry to save her life. She lives with two aunts, one a widow with two children and the other bitter and unmarried. Lakshmi and Sarathsiri piece together this painful background, shaping the tension that follows.

Selvi's aunt's house in upcountry Sri Lanka
4

Elopement and marriage plans

An older widowed businessman proposes to Selvi, and Sarathsiri also asks for her hand. Selvi elopes with Sarathsiri, and the couple moves into his home. He begins teaching her the pawning business and urges her to save money to buy a plot of tea land.

After elopement Sarathsiri's home
5

A frigid marriage and hidden emotions

Selvi tries to adjust to married life, but Sarathsiri keeps his emotions in check and shows little warmth. His focus remains on money, the pawn business, and his future plans rather than affection. Selvi's attempts at closeness go unanswered, creating growing distance.

Home
6

Trip to a South Indian movie

The couple goes to a South Indian Tamil movie; Selvi is thrilled as it's her favorite actor's film and it's her first big-screen experience. Yet Sarathsiri dislikes the movie and calls the whole trip a waste of money. The outing highlights the emotional gulf between them.

Evening Movie theater
7

Gamini's surprise visit

Gamini, a friend of Sarathsiri, arrives unannounced and they go out for drinks. They return late; in the morning Gamini apologizes to Selvi for disturbing them. Selvi overhears their conversation and learns Sarathsiri is an ex Sri Lankan Army soldier.

Next day morning Home and a nearby bar
8

Selvi learns Sarathsiri's army past and reacts

That night Selvi confronts Sarathsiri about his hidden past, asking why he kept his army service a secret. He questions what difference knowledge of his past would have made. She recounts her own trauma: her brothers were killed by the Sri Lankan army and her family faced danger because of her Tamil identity.

That night At their home, near the place of his proposal
9

Discovery of the revolver

While organizing the closet, Selvi discovers a revolver hidden in a drawer. That night she aims it at his forehead, but flinches when his head moves, and she withdraws. The revolver's presence casts a shadow over their fragile trust.

Night Upper floor closet
10

The missing revolver and Selvi's decline

The next day the revolver is missing, and Selvi suspects Sarathsiri has been spying on her. Her condition deteriorates into depression and seizures as fear and doubt overtake her. Throughout this, Sarathsiri watches her suffering in silence.

Following day Home
11

Sarathsiri's confession of guilt

In response to Selvi's torment, Sarathsiri confesses that he bore false witness about a Tamil girl being raped and killed by his fellow soldiers, including Gamini. He explains he left the army because of guilt, and reveals his reasons to reconcile with Selvi. This confession reframes his past in her eyes and adds to the emotional strain between them.

After the revolver incident Home
12

Sacrifices and renewed efforts

He sells his pawn shop and buys items to make Selvi happy, even returning her pawned things and promising a trip to India. He hopes to rekindle affection and create new memories, but Selvi remains emotionally distant and guarded. Her reaction underscores the fragility of their bond.

After confession Home; pawn shop
13

Selvi's pivotal decision

One morning Selvi tells Sarathsiri that if she is forgiven, she would become the wife he desires. He is overjoyed, kisses her, and rushes out to buy air tickets to India. Selvi prays with a rosary, then makes a life-altering decision that will change both their worlds forever.

Morning Home

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