Gay Meets Girl

Tim and Nicolaas open the documentary with candid questions about what it means to be gay and whether labels constrain human desire. They explain Tim's history of never having slept with a woman, and they set the intention to push beyond binary definitions.

They debate whether Tim should experiment with a woman to understand his own sexuality. Tim acknowledges the possibility of testing boundaries while Nicolaas emphasizes the value of exploring without shame.

The filmmakers seek context beyond talk by visiting a sex coach to learn about heterosexual intimacy and female sexuality. The sessions provide practical insights and raise new questions about desire, consent, and comfort.

A trip to a bonobo habitat offers a comparative lens on bisexual behaviors in another species. They observe interactions that challenge fixed categories and prompt reflections on human fluidity.

Science journalist Asha ten Broeke contributes framing on bisexual impulses as a possible human spectrum. Her perspectives deepen the discussion about how attraction can be fluid rather than absolute.

A pivotal turning point occurs when Tim agrees to meet Judy Minx in France, a performer known for boundary-pushing work. Judy expresses enthusiasm about exploring desire with a gay man to challenge binary definitions.

Tim and Judy proceed with a documented exploration of a wide range of sexual experiences. The shoots test comfort levels and reveal how both partners negotiate boundaries and curiosity.

The culmination arrives with an unsimulated encounter where Tim experiences heterosexual sex with Judy, including vaginal sex, oral sex, and other acts. Nicolaas records the moment as they push beyond conventional labels.

After the encounter, Tim reflects that the experience was enjoyable and enlightening, while noting his ongoing attraction to men. Judy and Nicolaas share a sense of accomplishment and relief at completing their experiment.

One month later, Tim is reinterviewed to process the experience in hindsight. He reiterates that trying heterosexual sex was positive but not a conversion, affirming his lifelong orientation toward men.

The film emphasizes sexuality as a spectrum rather than a fixed category. The documentary frames ongoing curiosity and personal history as shaping desire.

Tim articulates the idea that it is possible to be gay and still have satisfying sex with a woman, inviting broader conversation about fluidity, choice, and self-awareness in human sexuality. The film closes with a sense of ongoing exploration rather than a final verdict.