It’s Not You, It’s Me

It’s Not You, It’s Me

Year: 2010

Runtime: 100 mins

Language: Spanish

Director: Alejandro Springall

ComedyDramaRomance

Javier marries his beloved María and dreams of a lifelong happiness together, but tragedy strikes soon after the wedding, taking her away. Grieving and confused, he wrestles with his emotions, searching for a way to accept his wife's death and eventually discover love again.

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1

Javier and Maria plan to move to Florida and marry

Javier, a cardiac surgeon, and his girlfriend Maria decide to leave Mexico for a change of pace in Florida and start anew. They also plan to marry as part of their move. This decision sets the stage for future upheavals and a life built around new beginnings.

Mexico
2

Javier and Maria marry; Maria heads to Miami

Javier and Maria go through with their wedding as plans for Florida unfold, and Maria heads to Miami to prepare for his arrival. The alliance seems solid as she sets up their shared future. Javier remains behind briefly, contemplating what lies ahead.

Mexico / Miami
3

Maria reveals the affair on the way to the airport

On the way to the airport after the wedding, Maria calls to reveal she is with another man, Jorge Rubio. She bluntly tells him 'It's not you, it's me' and ends the dream of joining her in Florida. The revelation shatters Javier's sense of hope and leaves him reeling.

On the way to the airport
4

Distraught Javier moves back to his parents and seeks help

Distraught, Javier sells his apartment and car and moves back to his parents' house. He begins seeing a psychiatrist to cope with heartbreak and a loss of direction. His life turns inward as he confronts his pain.

Parents' home
5

Javier struggles at work and is suspended

Back at work, Javier cannot concentrate and accidentally injures a patient. He is told not to return until he can focus and stop letting his problems spill into the operating room. The setback threatens his career and his confidence.

Hospital
6

Javier mourns the loss of his fish and Maria apologizes

Javier discovers the fish he named Javier has died, a symbolic blow to his fading optimism. When Maria eventually calls to apologize, he rebuffs her and hints that the problem was Jorge Rubio. The heartbreak deepens as he isolates himself further.

Home
7

Javier buys a dog and reconnects with Julia

In the park, Javier sees a man meet a woman through a puppy, which sparks his decision to get a dog. He returns to the pet shop where he later runs into Julia again, a woman who once tried to talk to him at the movies. The encounter plants the seed for a new connection.

Park / Pet shop
8

Javier opens up and dates Gabi Rincon but she is engaged

His mother advises him to open up emotionally and stop using the dog as a shield. He digs into his little black book to call ex-girlfriends and lines up a date with Gabi Rincon, only to learn she is engaged and just wanted his wedding invitation. He realizes he is not ready for casual dating.

Home
9

Six months later: Lola and a one-night stand

Six months later, Javier is running with Pimpton in the park when he meets Lola, a woman with another Great Dane. They share a one-night stand, but follow-up calls are met with her clear instruction not to contact again. The encounter pushes Javier to reflect on his emotional readiness.

Six months later Park
10

Javier becomes a plastic surgeon; Pimpton is pregnant

Javier finally lands a job as a plastic surgeon and his life seems to improve. Pimpton is revealed to be pregnant, and the pet-shop owner offers to buy her, but Javier decides to keep her. Julia gives Javier her number in case he has trouble with the dog.

Clinic / Pet shop
11

Pimpton's puppies and bond with Julia

Sometime later, Pimpton is ready to have the puppies. Javier calls Julia, who comes to help with the last puppy, cementing a bond between them. The shared moment builds trust and hints at a future together.

Home
12

Javier moves out and starts dating Julia; Pedrito joins

Javier moves out of his parents' house and asks Julia out on a date. Julia shows up with her young son Pedrito, and Javier gets along with him; the date goes well, and they plan to see each other again. A new blended-family dynamic begins to form.

Javier's apartment
13

Maria's hospital news interrupts a party

During an intimate moment with Julia, Maria calls to say her dad is in the hospital due to a heart attack. Javier agrees to go see him at the hospital and also offers to pick up Maria at the airport, showing he still cares in a complicated way. Julia overhears and quietly leaves the party.

Party / Hospital
14

Maria's dad surgery and the result

Javier is allowed to perform a successful surgery on Maria's dad, earning her gratitude and affirming his professional competence amid personal turmoil. The moment underscores the complexities of his life between old loyalties and new love.

Hospital
15

Maria's letter and Javier chooses Julia

Maria sends a letter apologizing for the affair and asking to be with him again, but Javier reads it and decides not to return to her. He tells Maria that it’s not her fault, but he must move forward with Julia. The film ends with him entering a life with Julia, Pedrito, Pimpton, and the puppies.

Javier's apartment

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