Bob’s Birthday

Bob Fish, Andy Hamilton, a dentist on the verge of a quiet mid-life crisis as he hits forty, spends the day at work with a growing sense that something isn’t quite right. A routine patient visit becomes a micro-drama when the patient ribbing about dentistry spirals into a casual philosophical chat: the patient mentions hours and salary and then relays a claim that dentists have the highest suicide rate of all professions. Bob listens, tries to stay professional, and answers with the same steady, practiced calm he brings to every appointment, even as the idea seeds doubt about his own choices and future.

Back at home, his wife Margaret, Alison Snowden, is busy transforming their evening into something special. She hides behind a cloud of decorations, meticulously stocking her closet with party supplies and planning a celebratory spectacle for Bob’s birthday. The tension between their private hopes and public appearances begins to simmer alongside the mounting friction of a marriage that feels more like a performance than a partnership.

When Bob finally returns, Margaret’s plan for a restaurant celebration has to wait as the couple’s living room fills with friends who are really more like temporary actors in the couple’s life. Margaret signals for the guests to hide as the clock ticks toward the moment Bob is supposed to arrive. He steps in, heads straight to the kitchen, and questions whether their life together has been about more than the surface of things—whether they should have children, whether he should leave dentistry, and what their marriage has become. The mood shifts quickly from festive to unsettling as he confronts the gap between appearance and reality.

People behind the sofa and under the cushions listen in as Bob dissects the dynamics of the party and their friendships. He mutters that the invited friends may not even be true friends and throws out uncomfortable possibilities about their shared future. The room, alive with chatter and hidden laughter, becomes a stage where a personal crisis plays out in real time. He questions the value of the life they’ve built, with lines that mix nostalgia, accusation, and a blunt honesty about desire, security, and fertility.

A moment of dark humor punctuates the mounting strain when Bob, in the middle of the party, descends the stairs in a state of half-embarrassed improvisation, only to be told, with a mix of urgency and irony, to put his pants back on. He resents the reminder of the past, insisting that his partner once loved this about him, and the moment crystallizes the widening rift between how they see themselves and how they are seen by others.

As the evening wears on, Bob steps outside to wait in the car, still convinced they are headed out to dinner. Margaret follows, a mix of frustration and care driving her actions, while she quietly absorbs the unraveling illusion of the surprise party. The guests, left behind in the living room, linger in a half-lit, awkward silence as the planned celebration collapses around them. The film lingers on this moment of disconnection, highlighting the quiet despair and stubborn hope that can coexist in a long marriage.

What remains after the party is a stark portrait of a couple at a crossroads: a man clinging to the idea of youth and possibility, and a woman who has invested in a ritual of companionship that now feels hollow. The story, told with a restrained, observational style, peels back the layers of a relationship under pressure, showing how a single night can reveal deeper truths about partnership, aging, and the ache for meaning beyond the surface of a well-curated life.

Last Updated: October 09, 2025 at 12:30