Missing Home

Pak Domu and Mak Domu are the steady anchors of a Batak family, and they are parents to four children: Sarma, Sahat, Domu, and Gabe. Sarma stays close, helping to care for the parents, while her brothers fly to different cities to pursue their own paths. As a Batak Thanksgiving approaches, a sense of longing and duty threads through the household: the parents want their children to come home, to share meals and memories, to honor tradition, and to witness the family’s strength in togetherness. Yet a quiet rift lingers, as Domu contends with the idea of marrying a Sundanese woman, a union Pak Domu fears might clash with Batak customs, while Gabe has carved out a celebrated place as the star of a comedy show, and Sahat has built a life caring for a man named Pak Pomo after finishing university, choosing not to return to the old home base.

To lure the scattered brood back, the parents decide to stage a domestic crisis. They begin a staged argument, playing out a looming divorce to create tension and force the kids to reconsider their priorities. The ruse is risky but calculated: if the children can see one parent at a time, perhaps they’ll understand the stakes from each side and feel compelled to return for the holiday. The plan unfolds in a way that blends humor with ache, as dinner conversations drift between humor and grievance, and the family finds itself pulled into a family theater where real feelings battle scripted lines.

The plan succeeds beyond expectations when the children exile themselves to Bukit Holbung, a choice that allows each parent to express their wishes while the other is momentarily distracted. In these one-on-one moments, Pak Domu argues for defending the way he raised the family and the need to keep his authority, while Mak Domu asserts that her husband’s rigid expectations wear her down. The family is reminded, albeit through tension, that every household has its own rhythm. Meanwhile, Pak Domu’s mother—Inang #1—offers a wiser, gentler corrective, hinting that the children should stay until the celebrations are complete rather than rushing to conclusions.

As the Batak Thanksgiving celebration begins to glow with warmth, the family slowly finds themselves drawn back together. The next day, Mak Domu falls ill with a fever, and Pak Domu seizes the moment to reassert his grievances, pushing back against the pressure to bend to entirely new expectations while still feeling protective of the family’s legacy. Yet the children, true to their own paths, decide to continue on with their lives, even as the tension remains. The ruse begins to crack when Sarma overhears her parents discussing the staged divorce and finally voices the truth she has kept inside for years. She describes the pressure she faced to follow her father’s orders, a pressure that had stifled her own ambitions and dreams. The revelation acts as a catharsis that ripples through the room, and Mak Domu, seeing the pain she caused, chooses to leave with Sarma for her mother’s house, hoping to mend the fractures of the past.

With Sarma’s departure, the dynamic of the family shifts. Domu and Gabe resume their ordinary lives, their careers resuming their natural cadence, while Sahat remains at the family home, continuing to care for Pak Pomo and weaving his own place into the village’s fabric. Pak Domu, confronted with the consequences of his parenting style, seeks guidance from his own mother, Inang #2, and learns that parenting—like culture—comes in many forms. His mother reminds him that every family has its distinct way of living, and the important thing is to accept those differences rather than deny them. This moment softens Pak Domu’s stance, sparking a quiet transformation that pushes him toward a broader acceptance of his children’s choices.

In a heartfelt sequence, Pak Domu visits his children at their workplaces. He discovers that Domu’s wife has a genuine interest in Batak culture, a detail that speaks to the complexity and richness of their lives beyond the home walls. He also learns that Sahat has earned respect within his community, and that Gabe’s work on his show has drawn a degree of public acceptance and even admiration. These discoveries begin to reframe Pak Domu’s understanding of success and happiness, revealing that the family’s legacy is not a fixed script but a living, evolving story.

Guided by a renewed sense of connection, Pak Domu arranges a reunion at Mak Domu’s mother’s house, the place where generations precede and dreams sometimes collide. He promises to return to the family’s home together, to share a meal and rebuild a sense of unity that honors both tradition and individual paths. The film closes on a note of reconciliation and humility, with the Batak proverb framing the moment: Sititik ma sigompa, golang-golang pangarahutna. On ma na boi tarpatupa, sai godang ma pinasuna. The line, translated, reads: “This is what we can present, may it bring many blessings.”

Throughout, the ensemble cast threads humor with pathos, painting a portrait of a family that loves each other fiercely even when they disagree. The film remains patient and observant, never rushing its emotional beats, letting each character’s voice carry weight. The result is a warm, observant look at tradition, duty, and the need for space to grow, all anchored by a family that learns to listen, adapt, and choose togetherness without erasing individual dreams.

Last Updated: October 01, 2025 at 10:23