This Is My Life

Dottie Ingels [Julie Kavner] is a single mother in Queens who works at a Macy’s cosmetics counter but dreams of becoming a stand-up comedian. She and her two daughters—Erica [Samantha Mathis] Ingels and Opal [Gaby Hoffmann] Ingels—have lived with Dottie’s Aunt Harriet [Estelle Harris] ever since Dottie’s ex-husband walked out on them years earlier. Dottie clings to the hope of stardom even as the daily grind of paycheck-to-paycheck life keeps tugging her back, and the only place she can really try out her material is at the cosmetics counter itself, where the punchlines mix with blush tones and customer chatter.

When Harriet dies suddenly, Dottie inherits the house but makes a bold choice: sell the place and move to Manhattan to chase her dream full-time. She hones her look, dressing in polka-dots to stand out, and starts hitting the local clubs, where she unexpectedly finds kin among other struggling comics. A chance meeting with the eccentric mega-agent Arnold Moss [Dan Aykroyd]—arranged through his sharp and capable assistant Claudia Curtis [Carrie Fisher]—changes the trajectory of her career. Moss is impressed by Dottie’s energy and immediately books her a slot at one of the West Coast’s biggest showcases, the Comedy Shop on Sunset Strip, in Los Angeles.

Erica and Opal, who witnessed Moss’s napkin-eating moment during the show, are cautiously hopeful but skeptical about this new path for their mother. Dottie’s set translates into bookings, and she extends her trip for more opportunities, including a guest slot on a nationally syndicated late-night program, The Gary Garry Show. The sudden momentum feels exhilarating, but it also fractures the family’s rhythm. Dottie’s success comes with a price: a sense that she is choosing fame over being a present parent. After landing a well‑paid but cringe-worthy role—voicing a talking chicken in a commercial—Erica confronts Opal with a sharp truth: Dottie is “disgusting” for not being the kind of “regular mom” who prioritizes parenting over work.

As Dottie lands a residency offer for the Tropicana in Las Vegas, the kids’ skepticism hardens into anger. Moored in a conflict of loyalty and longing, Erica begins dating Jordan, a boy at school, while his endocrinologist mother walks in on them and uses the moment to lecture about safe sex with a life‑size model of the female reproductive system. Dottie’s ambivalent triumph becomes a source of tension: a chat-show appearance to promote the Las Vegas residency reveals how much she is willing to bend for her career, and the girls feel pushed aside, overhearing conversations that suggest she values her spotlight more than their lives.

The family takes a decisive turn when Dottie returns from a date with Moss and the girls confront her, prompting them to hire a private detective to locate Norm—Dottie’s estranged ex-husband—who now lives upstate in Albany. The girls soon meet Norm’s new wife, Martha, while awaiting their father’s return from his job. Norm shows little interest in reuniting with the daughters, and his laughter when they explain Dottie’s success only deepens their resolve to defend her. In a pivotal memory, Opal recalls Norm’s harsh remark the day he left the family, and Erica pieces together what he meant. The moment of truth comes when Erica reveals that Norm had actually said “frigid,” meaning “cold in bed,” and the siblings confront the painful history that colored their childhood.

Thoroughly disillusioned, the sisters reconcile with Dottie and acknowledge the sacrifices she has made for them, even as they debate how to move forward. Dottie apologizes for letting her career eclipse her daughters’ lives, and the trio closes the chapter with a new sense of unity. In a hopeful final note, Erica and Opal suggest that Dottie channel her experiences into a sitcom set in New York City about a single mother who works at a cosmetics counter in a department store—a story rooted in reality, but told with warmth, humor, and the possibility of a future where both career and family can coexist.

“probably turn out fidgety like Dottie.”

“frigid,” meaning “cold in bed.”

Last Updated: October 09, 2025 at 14:10