My Dear Son

My Dear Son

Year: 1989

Runtime: 94 mins

Language: Cantonese

Director: David Chiang Da-Wei

Peter Ho hides his poor family and a father who sings street songs while working at a city firm. He rises, dates his boss’s daughter, but is fired when his past is exposed. He joins the triads, meets Maggie Cheung, and threatens his employer. As he sinks deeper, his family becomes vulnerable, making the film a critique of mobility and crime.

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Timeline – My Dear Son (1989)

Trace every key event in My Dear Son (1989) with our detailed, chronological timeline. Perfect for unpacking nonlinear stories, spotting hidden connections, and understanding how each scene builds toward the film’s climax. Whether you're revisiting or decoding for the first time, this timeline gives you the full picture.

1

Ka-chai begins singing sex songs in Yung Shue Tau

Ho Ka-chai earns a living by singing sex songs in a public square in Yung Shue Tau. His performance defines the family's finances and his pride, setting up the contrast with his son's more conventional path. The film opens with the social visibility and stigma of his trade, shaping the family dynamics.

Yung Shue Tau
2

Peter starts a data job at Lok's Group

Peter secures a position in Lok's Group's data department and begins a new, steadier career. He urges his father to retire from public singing to support the family, but Ka-chai refuses, citing the many living expenses they still face. The clash between old ways and new opportunities is established.

Lok's Group offices
3

Night before the job: hotpot with Maddy, gang trouble

Peter celebrates with his friend Maddy, a triad member who smuggles goods, at a hotpot dinner. The night spirals into a street gang clash as Maddy confronts his rival Tall Sum, a conflict witnessed by Peter and their childhood friend Fung. The violence foreshadows the moral compromises ahead.

Yung Shue Tau
4

First day at Lok's Group; lunchtime visit

On his first day, Peter is visited by his father at lunchtime, who introduces himself to Peter's new colleagues. The moment unsettles Peter, and Jenny, a colleague, later recognizes Ka-chai's occupation, denting Peter's self-esteem. The revelation sows tension at work and at home.

midday Lok's Group offices
5

Nightclub introduction to Petty and Chun

Peter is taken to a nightclub where he meets Martin's boss Mr. Chun and Chun's sister Petty, who flirts and dances with him. The night is interrupted by Fung, a bar server, and the social tension hints at future entanglements with Petty and Chun. The encounter deepens Peter's complicated ties to the circle around Lok's Group.

Nightclub
6

Robbery and thrill with Petty's car

Petty treats Peter to a ride in her convertible, and they are robbed; they manage to escape together. The dangerous thrill of the moment deepens the attraction between Peter and Petty, while showing the fast-and-loose nature of Petty's world. The incident becomes a marker of how Peter's life is being pulled into risk.

Petty's convertible; street
7

Birthday dinner with high-society expenses

Petty lends Peter her convertible again, prompting a celebratory night that ends with a high-class dinner. Ka-chai and Uncle Min intervene to pay the bill, lying that Min has won a lottery to cover expenses. Peter feels both pride and discomfort as his family uses ill-gotten money to celebrate.

High-class restaurant
8

Siblings reveal Ka-chai's occupation; tension with Chun

During a gathering, Peter's siblings reveal their father's sex-songs occupation, which displeases Chun. The disclosure strains Peter's relationship with his bosses and stirs jealousy and disapproval from Chun, who has his own stake in the family drama. Petty's loyalties become ambiguous in the aftermath.

Lok's Group or associated party
9

Peter fired; father defends him

Martin warns Peter to stay away from Petty and informs him that he is fired, triggering a heated argument with Ka-chai at home. Ka-chai argues that no one should look down on him for where the money comes from, deepening the family rift. The job loss accelerates Peter's turn toward the criminal world.

Peter's home
10

Bathroom confrontation; Peter asserts himself

Peter confronts Chun in the nightclub bathroom and manages to intimidate him without words, though he ultimately spares him. The moment marks a shift in Peter's willingness to challenge Chun and his sister Petty's shadow over his life. It foreshadows further violent consequences.

Nightclub bathroom
11

Peter joins Maddy's gang; brutal street fight

Peter, now aligned with Maddy, participates in a brutal clash with Tall Sum's gang, slashing Sum's underlings in the melee. The confrontation signals Peter's deeper dive into the criminal underworld and his increasingly violent path. Maddy's influence pulls him away from lawfulness.

City street; bar district
12

Tragic turn: Fung's death and Sum's death; Ka-chai covers for Peter

Fung dies from the wounds sustained earlier while helping Peter and Ka-chai reconcile, underscoring the real cost of their feud. Sum is killed in a later confrontation, and Ka-chai is forced to swallow a live goldfish and pretend to spare Peter. Peter shoots Sum and battles with Sum's remaining guards, then Ka-chai takes a final shot and is arrested to shield his son.

Sum's warehouse; hospital; street
13

Aftermath: prison and Peter takes up Ka-chai's trade

Ka-chai serves time in prison, and Peter ultimately takes up his father's occupation by singing sex songs to support the family. He preserves the family by continuing the cycle of life around the singing and the protection of his younger siblings. The film closes on a note of unresolved redemption and ongoing struggle.

Prison; Yung Shue Tau

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