The Pallbearer

The Pallbearer

Year: 1996

Runtime: 97 mins

Language: English

Director: Matt Reeves

ComedyRomanceRelationship comedyQuirky and endearing relationshipsLaugh-out-loud relationship entanglements

Tom Thompson, an aspiring architect, is shocked when mysterious Ruth Abernathy tells him his nonexistent best friend Bill has committed suicide. Though Tom has never met Bill, he agrees to deliver the eulogy, which pulls him into an odd encounter with Ruth—revealed as Bill’s mother—and teenage crush Julie DeMarco, resurfacing feelings and secrets.

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1

Bill's death and Tom asked to deliver the eulogy

Ruth Abernathy calls Tom to tell him that Bill has died by suicide and asks him to give the funeral eulogy and serve as a pallbearer. The request pulls Tom into the family's mourning circle even though he still lives with his own mother. The weight of a person he barely knew falls on him at the start of a complex day.

before the funeral Tom's house
2

Julie DeMarco returns to town

Tom learns his high school crush Julie DeMarco is back in town, stirring memories he kept tucked away. Her presence unsettles him and unsettles the status quo of his quiet life. The town seems to awaken as she reconnects with people from their past.

early Town
3

At Bill's funeral: Tom's improvised eulogy

During the funeral, Tom delivers a vague, impersonal eulogy that amuses some and confuses the Abernathys. Julie is visibly upset by the disrespect and tries to leave as the pallbearers carry the casket.

funeral day Church
4

Tom is relieved of pallbearer duties

Tom's offhand remarks and the crowd's reaction lead Bill's relatives to question him, and he is forced to step down as a pallbearer. Ruth remains visibly upset but supports him despite the awkward moment.

funeral day Church
5

Ruth reveals Bill's will

After the service, Ruth tells Tom that he is mentioned in Bill's will. The revelation deepens Tom's connection to Ruth and nudges him toward a complicated romance with Bill's mother.

post-funeral Ruth's home
6

Double date leads to awkward closeness

Tom calls Julie and she suggests bringing along Scott and Cynthia for a double date. At dinner, Julie and Scott click while Tom and Julie's conversation remains stilted. After dropping Julie home, she mentions she remembers him from high school and hints at moving away.

evening Restaurant / Julie's home
7

Second job interview and Ruth encounter

Tom is rejected at a second job interview and goes to Ruth's to help pack Bill's room. They share a kiss and ultimately decide to continue seeing each other, with Tom confessing a fictitious 'love interest' based on his feelings for Julie.

after dinner Ruth's house
8

Tom spies Julie at the record store

From his car, Tom watches Julie work at a record store and sees Scott slip her a kiss after letting him in. When Scott drives off, Tom absorbs the moment and feels the sting of competing with the memory of his past crush.

closing time Record store
9

Julie proposes a new plan and a concert

The next morning Julie tells Tom about Scott's kiss and expresses a desire to drive away for a year to be on her own. She invites Tom to a concert, signaling ongoing interest but a cautious future.

morning Town
10

Bracelet moment and misreading

Tom's car breaks down on the way to a family gathering at Ruth's. Julie finds Ruth's charm bracelet, and Tom reveals he has been helping Bill's mother since the funeral. Ruth misreads the situation and assumes their relationship is strictly platonic.

same day On the road / Ruth's home
11

Kiss under pressure at Tom's home

A tow truck brings Tom and Julie back to Tom's house. Tom sneaks into his mother's room for her car keys and, after a long confession, kisses Ruth when she unexpectedly arrives on the scene.

evening Tom's house
12

Brad's bachelor party showdown

At Brad's bachelor party, Tom publicly urges Brad not to marry Lauren, sparking tension with Scott. The confrontation reveals Tom's insecurity and the strain in his circle of friends.

bachelor party night Brad's party
13

Weddings, reconciliations, and a key to the future

The day of Brad's wedding sees Tom patch his friendship with Brad, and Scott and Cynthia reconcile as well. Tom gives Julie his car keys for her trip, and she hints at wanting to dance, signaling a hopeful, if uncertain, future.

wedding day Brad's wedding
14

A new chapter: job and moving in

Tom lands a new job and moves into Julie's apartment while she is away on her trip, marking a tangible step toward a committed life together despite the unsettled path that led there.

after wedding / trip Julie's apartment

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